Here’s a question that’ll flip your understanding of cultural intelligence in sales upside down: How do you win over a room full of skeptical Spanish teenagers when you’re the obvious American outsider who barely speaks their language?

That’s exactly what Spencer Birmingham from Arkansas faced when he called into Ask Jeb. Fresh out of college with a marketing degree and an internship at International Paper under his belt, Spencer was heading to Spain for eight months as a language teaching assistant. His challenge? Figure out how to connect with Spanish students and “sell” them on American culture and the English language.

What started as a simple question about gaining cultural perspective turned into a must-listen discussion of the universal principles of influence—principles that work whether you’re closing deals in boardrooms or winning over teenagers in Spanish classrooms.

The Universal Language of Human Connection

Spencer had already absorbed one of the key lessons from Sales EQ—the brown paper bag of bread story about understanding what matters to your prospect. But he was struggling to see how those principles would translate across cultural and language barriers.

Here’s the breakthrough: The five core decisions people make before they buy into you—Do I like you? Do you listen to me? Do you make me feel important? Do you get me? Do I trust and believe you?—are universal. They transcend language, culture, and geography.

Whether you’re selling software to executives in Atlanta or teaching English to teenagers in Madrid, every human being makes these same emotional decisions before they’ll open their hearts and minds to your message.

The Listening Advantage That Trumps Language Barriers

Most teachers (and salespeople) make the same fatal mistake: They walk in talking. They assume their job is to deliver information, share knowledge, and demonstrate expertise.

Wrong approach.

The secret weapon that works in every culture? Start by listening.

Instead of walking into that Spanish classroom and immediately launching into English lessons, what if Spencer started by asking questions: “Tell me something about yourself that not many people know. What are your biggest challenges with English? Why do you want to learn this language?”

This approach leverages what we know about human psychology in complex sales: When you listen first, you accomplish three critical things simultaneously.

First, you demonstrate likability through genuine interest. Second, you prove you’re actually listening—the foundation of all trust. Third, you make people feel important, which is the most insatiable human need.

Speaking Their Language (Even When You Don’t)

Here’s where it gets fascinating. Spencer worried about the language barrier, but that’s actually his biggest opportunity.

The language that matters most isn’t Spanish or English—it’s the language of being a teenager in Spain. It’s the language of their challenges, their dreams, their world. When Spencer takes what they share about themselves and incorporates it into his lessons, suddenly he’s not the outsider trying to force American culture on them.

He becomes the person who gets them.

“Remember when you told me about your soccer tournament? Let’s practice describing that experience in English.” Suddenly, English isn’t a foreign concept—it’s a tool for expressing what matters to them.

This mirrors exactly what happens in complex sales. The most successful salespeople don’t speak the language of their product features—they speak the language of their prospect’s business challenges, industry pressures, and personal goals.

The Power of Making People Feel Heard

There’s a reason why building trust through active listening is foundational to every sales methodology: It’s the fastest way to move from outsider to trusted advisor.

Spanish teenagers, like buyers everywhere, are drowning in noise. Everyone’s talking at them—parents, teachers, social media. But how many people are actually listening to them?

When Spencer takes time to hear their stories, understand their challenges, and remember their dreams, he’s giving them something rare: the feeling that they matter. And when people feel like they matter to you, the law of reciprocity kicks in. They want to give something back.

At minimum, they’ll give him their attention. More likely, they’ll drop their emotional walls and give him a genuine chance.

The Cultural Bridge Strategy

Here’s the advanced play: Use their language to build the bridge to your world.

When Spencer discovers that Maria loves photography, he doesn’t just teach her photography vocabulary in English. He asks her to describe her favorite photo in Spanish first, then helps her translate that passion into English. Now English isn’t a foreign language—it’s a way to share her passion with a wider world.

This strategy works in sales too. The best salespeople don’t pitch their solution in business jargon. They take what the prospect cares about most and show how their solution helps them achieve those specific goals.

Building Global Influence Skills

What Spencer doesn’t realize yet is that this eight-month experience will become the foundation of elite-level influence skills that will serve him throughout his entire sales career.

Every interaction in Spain—from family dinners to classroom conversations—becomes practice in reading people across cultural differences, adapting his communication style, and finding common ground with people who seem completely different from him.

These are the exact skills that separate good salespeople from great ones. The ability to walk into any room, with any group of people, and quickly build rapport and trust.

The Compound Effect of Curiosity

The final piece of Spencer’s success strategy: Genuine curiosity about others’ stories.

Whether it’s asking Spanish families about their traditions, learning from his students about their dreams, or understanding local customs, every conversation becomes an opportunity to practice the art of making others feel important.

Research on what makes listening truly effective shows this skill compounds. The more you practice being genuinely interested in others, the more natural it becomes. You develop the patience to calm your mind and step into someone else’s world—a skill that creates friends, builds trust, and opens doors everywhere you go.

The Bottom Line

Spencer’s heading to Spain thinking he needs to learn how to teach English. What he’ll actually learn is far more valuable: how to connect with anyone, anywhere, regardless of language or cultural barriers.

The principles of Sales EQ aren’t just for salespeople—they’re for anyone who wants to influence, connect, and make a difference in other people’s lives.

Whether you’re teaching teenagers in Spain or closing deals in corporate America, the fundamentals remain the same: Listen first, make people feel important, speak their language, and always remember that behind every interaction is a human being who wants to feel understood.

That’s how you win hearts. That’s how you create influence. And that’s how you turn any challenge into an opportunity for deeper connection.

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