Overloaded Prospects?
You meet with a new prospect and his/her guard is up. Their answers are short, and they pressure you to get to the solution and price without allowing you time to analyze their current situation. (It’s kind of like a doctor bringing in surgical tools without a diagnostic—crazy.)
Some of this behavior exists because your prospects are overloaded. Their behavior could also be coming from ‘sales ghosts’ of the past.
When you call on a prospect, memories from former bad sales meetings are brought into the meeting. You may have an entirely different style of sales and influence, however, the prospect doesn’t know that, resulting in guarded conversations.
Here are a few of the sales ghosts you may be running into.
The sales ghost of the ‘assumptive close’ rep:
This is the salesperson that hasn’t updated their approach since the 70’s. This salesperson was taught to ‘assume’ the sale. Translation: try to corner your prospect with statements like, “So if we could…would you want to?” Or, “Would you like model A or B?”
Good salespeople recognize this ghost of the past and instead of assuming the business, they prefer challenging the prospect on why he needs to make a change.
For example, in a sales meeting where the prospect isn’t giving up much information, you need to quickly change dynamic of the conversation. Do the opposite of what the prospect is expecting and say something like, “Mr. Prospect, as much as I’d like your business, I am not hearing enough reasons for change or invest. Things seem to be going well. What am I missing?”
Now you have put the ball in the prospect’s court. It’s his job to convince you of the reasons to change. In the emotional intelligence world it’s called reality testing. What’s really going on versus what you’d like to have going on.
Let’s face it, if the prospect isn’t committed to changing or the problem isn’t big enough to address, no amount of great selling skills are going to close this deal.
The sales ghost of the ‘feeling’ rep:
This is the salesperson that was taught to find out how the prospect “feels” about her challenge. The sales meeting is similar to those awful reporters on TV interviewing victims of a flood or fire. They ask dumb questions in hopes of evoking emotion. “How does losing your home make your feel?” Gee, I’m delighted. I was hoping to purchase new furniture.
Here’s how it sounds during a sales call. The prospect shares her pain of frustration of wasting time and money on technology that doesn’t work. Then the feeling rep asks, “How does that make you feel?” The prospect looks at the salesperson and thinks, “How do you think it makes me feel? (And there might be some additional words to finish that sentence.)
The professional salesperson puts on his/her empathy hat and shares a better response, one of genuine concern. “I can’t imagine how frustrating that must be. You’re trying to be progressive by investing in your company; instead, you have technology issues that are eating up everyone’s time at the company.”
During your pre-call planning, think about someone of the sales ghosts that might be haunting your prospect. Their guarded approach during a meeting is not about you…it’s about the other bad salespeople that have wasted their time and money.
Change your approach and you will change your sales outcomes.

![6 High-Probability Moments to Send LinkedIn Connection Requests Prior to an Event Events create natural relevance. Conferences, trade shows, user groups, and local meetups give you a reason to connect that does not feel forced. The mistake sellers make is waiting until the event starts or turning the request into a pitch. A better move is connecting days or weeks ahead with a simple acknowledgment of the shared event. Example: Hi Sarah, saw you’re attending the Midwest Manufacturing Summit next month. I’ll also be there and am super excited! I’d love to catch up in person at the event. In the meantime, let’s connect here on LinkedIn. You are aligning with something already on their calendar. When you see them at the event or reach out afterward, your name is no longer unfamiliar. Following an Event After an event, connection requests work best when they reference a real interaction, even a small one. A short conversation, a question during a session, or a brief introduction creates enough context. The request should reflect that moment, not attempt to convert it into a follow-up. Example: Tim, I enjoyed meeting you at the conference last week. Your take on [subject/trend/idea] was intriguing. I look forward to staying connected and to our next conversation. This reinforces continuity and professionalism without pushing the relationship forward prematurely. After a Sales Call Sending a connection request after a sales call is one of the most underused opportunities in prospecting. If the call was answered and productive, the request reinforces credibility and continuity. Example: Thanks again for the conversation today. I appreciated your perspective on how your team is thinking about next quarter. I look forward to our next meeting and sharing some ideas I have with you and your team. If the prospect did not answer, a connection request can still make sense as a light reinforcement, especially early in the relationship. It keeps your name present without escalating pressure. Either way, the request works because the call establishes legitimacy first. After a Meaningful Interaction Not all interactions happen in formal selling environments. Thoughtful exchanges in comment threads, group discussions, or brief conversations in passing all create natural moments to connect. That might mean running into each other at a non-work event, crossing paths at an airport, or chatting briefly in a line somewhere unexpected. Example: Haley, it was a pleasure meeting you on our flight to Atlanta. Thank you for your restaurant recommendations! I look forward to staying connected, What makes this work is that the interaction was real. The request simply continues it. Mutual Connections Shared connections reduce perceived risk when handled with restraint. They signal that you operate in similar professional circles, not that you have permission to pitch. The mistake is overexplaining or implying endorsement. Example: Hi Mark, I noticed that you are connected to my good friend, James, and since you are also [interested in, working in, located in] I thought it might make sense for us to be connected also. A simple acknowledgment is enough. Familiarity does the work. Profile Views Profile views signal awareness, not intent. When someone views your profile after a call, email, or content interaction, a connection request can make sense as a low-pressure acknowledgment. Example: Wendy, thank you for visiting my profile. I had a chance to look at yours, and based on your interests, I thought it might make sense for us to connect. The discipline is resisting the urge to read more into it than is there. Want the exact framework for integrating LinkedIn into a disciplined outreach sequence without pitching, spamming, or wasting time? Buy The LinkedIn Edge by Jeb Blount and Brynne Tillman today. Sales Gravy is the number one sales training organization](https://salesgravy.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/6-Moments-LinkedIn-Connection-Requests-Actually-Work-in-Prospecting-Sales-Gravy-Blog-Featured-Image-768x401.jpg)

