Ah, the life of a salesperson. Perpetually condemned to sleazeball status, pushing unneeded or unwanted services on prospects who have no interest in those wares, only to run off into the sunset with briefcases full of cash…
In the 1987 movie “The Tin Men,” a flick about competing salesmen who push unwitting homeowners to buy aluminum siding that they don’t really need, the movie opens with a classic exchange between Richard Dreyfuss’ character and a Cadillac salesman.
When the car salesman asks Dreyfuss’ character what he’s willing to pay for a new car, Dreyfuss fires back with a classic response:
“I really don’t want you to hustle me here. You know what I mean. I really hate that. I hate being hustled.”
Mind you, that’s one salesperson telling another salesperson that they don’t want to be hustled. Oh, the irony.
I was reminded of that quote when I received an email from one of my webinar listeners recently. This person described himself as someone with a technical background who was new to sales and struggling with prospecting. Here’s what he said:
Whenever I try to cold call, I constantly picture myself as a dreaded car salesman (whom I tend to avoid like the plague) or the Music Man who’s here to tell you whatever you want to hear, then exit stage right once the money is in hand!
Ah, the life of a salesperson. Perpetually condemned to sleazeball status, pushing unneeded or unwanted services on prospects who have no interest in those wares, only to run off into the sunset with briefcases full of cash…
The problem with that portrayal, however, is that it’s more Hollywood myth and misconception than anything else.
The reality is that the vast majority of salespeople are honest, helpful, and scrupulous professionals. Our goal is to educate prospects, inform them of their options, and guide them to a product or service that enriches their life or business.
What’s so sleazy or negative about that?!
Honestly, I love selling. But it’s not because of the money and it’s certainly not because I enjoy a good hustle.
I love it because sales allows me to help others.
Throughout my sales career, I’ve found that if you’re genuinely focused on helping your clients, sales is a truly joyful and noble job to have. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, and you certainly shouldn’t think of yourself in the vein of a used car salesman or Danny DeVito’s character from “The Tin Men.”
Frankly, the best salespeople don’t focus on the money – even if they do happen to make a nice living from their craft. Instead, they focus on the issues that their prospects and customers are facing and create a plan to address those problems.
They hone in on solutions, make honest recommendations that will help customers personally and professionally, and cultivate relationships in ways that foster long-term business partnerships.
So, my advice to that webinar listener (and anyone reading this who has similar fears) was simple:
Don’t be ashamed of what you do.
Instead, embrace and be proud of it. Because if you’re primarily focused on building relationships, serving clients, and resolving problems with helpful solutions, then there’s nothing sleazy about what you’re doing.
Now, that doesn’t mean that prospects will always warmly respond to your outreach. But even when you’re coldly rejected, you can walk away with your head held high knowing that you tried your best to make someone’s life a little bit better.

![6 High-Probability Moments to Send LinkedIn Connection Requests Prior to an Event Events create natural relevance. Conferences, trade shows, user groups, and local meetups give you a reason to connect that does not feel forced. The mistake sellers make is waiting until the event starts or turning the request into a pitch. A better move is connecting days or weeks ahead with a simple acknowledgment of the shared event. Example: Hi Sarah, saw you’re attending the Midwest Manufacturing Summit next month. I’ll also be there and am super excited! I’d love to catch up in person at the event. In the meantime, let’s connect here on LinkedIn. You are aligning with something already on their calendar. When you see them at the event or reach out afterward, your name is no longer unfamiliar. Following an Event After an event, connection requests work best when they reference a real interaction, even a small one. A short conversation, a question during a session, or a brief introduction creates enough context. The request should reflect that moment, not attempt to convert it into a follow-up. Example: Tim, I enjoyed meeting you at the conference last week. Your take on [subject/trend/idea] was intriguing. I look forward to staying connected and to our next conversation. This reinforces continuity and professionalism without pushing the relationship forward prematurely. After a Sales Call Sending a connection request after a sales call is one of the most underused opportunities in prospecting. If the call was answered and productive, the request reinforces credibility and continuity. Example: Thanks again for the conversation today. I appreciated your perspective on how your team is thinking about next quarter. I look forward to our next meeting and sharing some ideas I have with you and your team. If the prospect did not answer, a connection request can still make sense as a light reinforcement, especially early in the relationship. It keeps your name present without escalating pressure. Either way, the request works because the call establishes legitimacy first. After a Meaningful Interaction Not all interactions happen in formal selling environments. Thoughtful exchanges in comment threads, group discussions, or brief conversations in passing all create natural moments to connect. That might mean running into each other at a non-work event, crossing paths at an airport, or chatting briefly in a line somewhere unexpected. Example: Haley, it was a pleasure meeting you on our flight to Atlanta. Thank you for your restaurant recommendations! I look forward to staying connected, What makes this work is that the interaction was real. The request simply continues it. Mutual Connections Shared connections reduce perceived risk when handled with restraint. They signal that you operate in similar professional circles, not that you have permission to pitch. The mistake is overexplaining or implying endorsement. Example: Hi Mark, I noticed that you are connected to my good friend, James, and since you are also [interested in, working in, located in] I thought it might make sense for us to be connected also. A simple acknowledgment is enough. Familiarity does the work. Profile Views Profile views signal awareness, not intent. When someone views your profile after a call, email, or content interaction, a connection request can make sense as a low-pressure acknowledgment. Example: Wendy, thank you for visiting my profile. I had a chance to look at yours, and based on your interests, I thought it might make sense for us to connect. The discipline is resisting the urge to read more into it than is there. Want the exact framework for integrating LinkedIn into a disciplined outreach sequence without pitching, spamming, or wasting time? Buy The LinkedIn Edge by Jeb Blount and Brynne Tillman today. Sales Gravy is the number one sales training organization](https://salesgravy.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/12/6-Moments-LinkedIn-Connection-Requests-Actually-Work-in-Prospecting-Sales-Gravy-Blog-Featured-Image-768x401.jpg)

